Tuesday, November 07, 2006

Sorry about the break...

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Submitted by Kaylynn from San Fransisco, CA

"I was walking with some friends by the beach in a bikini, when a man who looked about 40 came up behind me and made a comment that was not intelligible. After that, he laughed and untied my bikini top. I was completely mortified at what this man did! What right did he have to untie my top! I want to know why somebody would do this. Why would somebody embarrass a woman like this!!! It made me so infuriated!"

14 Comments:

At 4:23 AM, Anonymous Guy said...

No offence, but from my perspective most girls want to be noticed & actually crave the (even negative) attention. Just look @ how so many girls dress. So, why don't u all stop complaining!

PS. Recently a guy (NOT me ... I read about it in the paper) was arrested for photographing women who were exposing themselves at a public beach. How's that for hypocrisy? God, what a screwed up world this is! Hullo!!

 
At 3:56 PM, Blogger HollaBackCali said...

Unfortunately, I don't see how the fact that a woman is wearing a bikini gives any man the right to untie it.

I find your argument frightening, in that many men will use this defense against rape. "She wanted it or she wouldn't have dressed seductively!". Does the way a woman is dressed entitle a man to rape her?

 
At 5:08 PM, Anonymous girl said...

to Guy: Women have the right to dress sexy and provacatively and not be harrassed and assaulted. Girls might be looking for attention, but not degrading and belittling attention that makes them feel inferior. And jut because you are in a public place doesnt mean you can take anyones picture.

 
At 10:24 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

to Girl: You have no expectation of privacy in a public place, otherwise taking a picture of a man for street harrassment would be illegal. Would it not?

 
At 6:54 PM, Blogger HollaBackCali said...

"Anonymous" actually does have a point. While in public, you have no expectation of privacy. You do, however, have the right to dress however you wish without being harassed.

Thank you for pointing that out.

 
At 4:14 PM, Anonymous Guy said...

I agree, it's definitely not OK to harrass someone, & this sort of behaviour makes me very angry. So, sorry to have caused any offence. However, I do find society's double-standards really confusing! And this doesn't change my perception that many women use their sexualty for power & manipulation.

 
At 6:28 PM, Blogger HollaBackCali said...

Don't worry, we're not trying to change your perceptions, and I do agree that yes, some women do like attention, however, there are some "appropriate" ways in which men can show their appreciation.

Thank you very much for sharing your opinions with us!

 
At 12:27 AM, Anonymous Guy said...

No worries! :-)

 
At 7:08 PM, Blogger Ken said...

You have every right to be infuriated! that sucks that guys harrass women whether they are dressed modestly or not. I apology for all the guys out there that do this. We live a world where pornography and playboy are deemed cool, which are contributing to men treating women as sexual objects. I don't know why women won't take a stand against this as well, but this blog is a great start! Keep the awareness coming and know that I hope you all will consider placing your faith in Jesus (needGod.com).

 
At 9:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow,
I just read the paper and found this website. I am a man and never knew what a problem this is. Does this type of thing happen to girls every time you go out or is it a thing that happens every now and again?

I have a wife and daughter and it concerns me. I think my wife is attractive but she said she has never had any problems like the ones described on this web site.

 
At 3:55 PM, Blogger HollaBackCali said...

Hi, anonymous. I was just curious how you found our blog?

Thanks for the support, and yes, unfortunately, many women deal with street harassment on a regular basis. It all depends on where you live, I guess.

Thanks for all your comments!

 
At 8:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm in high school, and sometimes after taking the bus home my friend and I chat before setting off. Twice in a row some men in their passing cars honked at us. Once a man was yelling something I couldn't quite understand out the window.

The scariest thing is these very men, not necessarily anyone extraordinary looking or acting, could be our very classmates' fathers.

 
At 7:07 PM, Blogger cole said...

the key here is consent! in the original post the man took it upon himself to violate her physically without her consent. undressing someone must be consentual otherwise it is abhorrant social behavior. plain and simple.

 
At 12:56 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh my goodness. if i were you i would have turned around, kicked him in the crotch, and called the cops for sexual harassment. he has absolutely no right to do that to you!

 

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